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David Vraza MA
Mar 251 min read
Losing Autonomy
Some thoughts from Andy Partington’s “Hope In Addiction” compiled by David Vraza MA. The popular culture uses the word addiction to cover...
David Vraza MA
Feb 261 min read
Lack of Satisfying Relationships is Good Soil for Problematic Sexual Behaviors
Some thoughts from Andy Partington’s “Hope In Addiction” compiled by David Vraza MA. People stuck in sexually compulsive behaviors tell...
David Vraza MA
Jan 261 min read
Co-dependency
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza MA
Jan 191 min read
Alternatives to Quitting — A Cycle of Brief Success and Relapse
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza MA
Jan 121 min read
Alternatives to Quitting — Giving Up
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. I’m continuing to explore May’s thesis that...
David Vraza MA
Jan 51 min read
Alternatives to Quitting — Delaying Tactics
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. I’m spending a couple of weeks examining May’s thesis...
David Vraza MA
Dec 29, 20231 min read
Alternatives to Quitting — Rationalization
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. Last week I shared some of May’s thoughts on denial and...
David Vraza MA
Dec 22, 20231 min read
Self-Deception
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. Self-deception lies at the heart of addiction. These mind...
David Vraza MA
Dec 15, 20231 min read
5 Markers of Addiction
Some thoughts from Gerald May’s “Addiction & Grace” compiled by David Vraza MA. May defines addiction as any compulsive, habitual...
David Vraza MA
Oct 6, 20231 min read
Rewiring the Brain with Porn
Some thoughts from Gary Wilson’s “Your Brain On Porn” compiled by David Vraza MA. Like Pavlov’s dog, repeatedly pairing a stimulus and a...
David Vraza MA
Sep 29, 20231 min read
Neurons that Fire Together Wire Together
Some thoughts from Gary Wilson’s “Your Brain On Porn” compiled by David Vraza MA. Wilson quotes the famous phrase, “neurons that fire...
Stefanie Hofman MA, LMFT
Sep 22, 20232 min read
WHEN TICKLING IS NOT OKAY
Thoughts compiled by Stefanie Hofman MA, LMFT Tickling is often used as part of behaviors known as grooming performed by sexual...
David Vraza MA
Sep 16, 20231 min read
“Yes, I am Always Available to You”
Some thoughts from Steve Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey’s “Every Man’s Battle” compiled by David Vraza MA. Many Christians are...
David Vraza MA
Sep 9, 20231 min read
Why Does My Mind Turn so Easily to Sexual Thoughts?
Some thoughts from Steve Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, and Mike Yorkey’s “Every Man’s Battle” compiled by David Vraza MA. Men living in a...
David Vraza MA
Sep 2, 20231 min read
I Feel Awkward Around My Daughter
Some thoughts from Archibald Hart’s “The Sexual Man” compiled by David Vraza MA. How much is porn-driven guilt depriving fathers of vital...
David Vraza MA
Aug 26, 20231 min read
What is Normal?
Some thoughts from Archibald Hart’s “The Sexual Man” compiled by David Vraza MA. What is normal? What is dysfunctional? What is sinful?...
David Vraza MA
Aug 19, 20231 min read
The Habit of Hiding
Some thoughts from Mark Laaser’s “Faithful & True” compiled by David Vraza MA. Regular (and secret) pornography use and masturbation...
David Vraza MA
Aug 11, 20231 min read
Does My Sexual Sin Invalidate My Faith?
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA. Perry outlines the basic religious argument — a true...
David Vraza MA
Aug 4, 20231 min read
Is Sexual Sin Supremely Corrupting?
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA. Perry is concerned about the tendency of conservative...
David Vraza MA
Jul 28, 20231 min read
Moral Incongruence
Some thoughts from Samuel L. Perry’s “Addicted to Lust” compiled by David Vraza MA. Perry writes “about the curious relationship between...
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